There really isn't anything I can think of.....
A very long time ago, in a lifetime far, far, away.... I discovered that if I want to be forgiven for all of my mis-doings---be they sins of commission or omission, then I need to speedily forgive others. This includes those who have wronged me---or someone I love. Knowing that, believing that, is one thing, but when it comes to your children, it is a very difficult principle by which to live.
Elaine is someone who hurt my children. Forgiving her has been a particular challenge for me, but I believe that ship has finally sailed. Time has a way of doing that.
It really all boils down to mercy.
I am a huge fan of mercy :-)